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Lately, my girlfriend is busy complaining to me. She had face many troubles in school. Well, we are very close. And usually, when either of us have problem, our phone bill will explode! And this time, I think her phone bill is going to explode sooo much!

She is complaining about her classmates. She is one quite out-going girl and yes, she don't really care about the gap between gender. She just hang around whoever she is comfortable with. However, lately, she had gotten lots of gossiping behind her back.

And with all these, it reaches a point where I start to ponder.

"Girls and guys cannot be purely best friend." How true is this?

I personally have many good friends of opposite gender. Since primary school, I can communicate better with guys than girls. Well, maybe it is due to my childhood.

Since young, I am brought up by my godma who have 4 sons. And yes, they took care of me and all. And when my granny took over taking care of me, I follow my brother wherever I go. My brother is like my best friend. We do things together, eat together. When I have problem, the first person I go to is my brother.

I am very close to my cousins. And yes, practically all of them are guys! I have a very close cousin, Kah Wai. When we were young, wai seldom come down grandma place because of distance. So I spend most of my time with sebestian, benjamine, ding lun, drew drew and kenneth.

When I get into primary school, I have a group of girlfriends and we usually have tons of conflict. I always have to get very problematic with them. And after once incident, I have this super good guy friend and always chat on the phone. He will always chat with me and talk to me. This is my very first best guy friend.

In secondary school, my class girls and I are not VERY close anyways. And then I came to know some guys and we actually got very clique due to our mentality frequency. Occasionally, I go out with them, a group of 4 guys.

When I reach secondary 3, I can actually chat with guy friends for more than 3 hours. And that guy is just my close friends. We chatted a lot and yes, shared our problems. Everytime when we call one another, we can chat up to 3 or more hours.

And as time goes by, I got closer with guys friends and seldom talk to girlfriends as much. This is a trend even when I am attached. Well, I find myself communicate better with guys, common frequency and all.

One thing I like about hang around with guys is, regardless how much they do not like the other person, they will still make friends with them. And as for girls, when they do not like the other person, this gossipy news will spread and everyone will don't like that person. And this made the whole relationship very strain!

I thought that in poly, everyone is more mature to think. I thought only primary school kids will scandal when guys and girls are very close. They will laugh and joke about them being very close. And in secondary school, some of their thinking are mature and thinks that they are just best friend. And some will think either of them like the other.

I did not know that this trend will lead to poly life. I have a couple of guys best friends in poly. Yes, we are very good friends. And I tend to talk to them when I have problem. Usually when I have relationship problem, I will talk to guys and listen to what the guys think. I always try to be better in relationship so I always try to talk to guys and listen to their opinion.

And as for normal school related stuff, I will still complain to guys. Well, guys are more patient in listening to what other people has to say. And yes, some guys really gives good suggestion and all. In a way, guys and girls are different. Guys are lead by brain and girls are lead by feeling. So many times, consulting a girl is like talking to the wall.

Well, usually I don't find myself confiding in girls. May be it is due to the fact that I had been talking to guys since childhood life. I will talk to them and ask them for help. Just like when feeling troubled, I will talk to drew drew and not jie jie.

Seriously, I don't mind friends joking about me and other guys being close. However, know the limit. I seriously don't mind them in front of me, jokingly mention about it. But when they start saying behind people's back, it is far too much already. I think they are damn immature.

Don't they know, whatever they say will hurt people? Not just one but in this case, the 2 friends and their respective relationship partner. They do not understand at all. Don't they know that by saying all these, they can actually cause other people to lose a friend?

I have been through before. Just because I am very close with a guy, and then people start to talk RUBBISH about me and that guy. Slowly, it spreaded to the guy's girlfriend and the girlfriend make noise, I stop hanging out with the guy. And slowly, I lost a friend. I hate that feeling of losing a friend under force. And yes, I admit that I blame and hate those gossiper for doing all these.

why can't we have the freedom to choose our own friends?