Yesterday, 16 September 09, I received a called from one of my orientation mate. She was telling me that one of my og mate is super pissed off after reading my blog. So, I went to clarify things with that super pissed og mate of mine. To some, there is not a point to clarify. To some, there is no harm clarifying. Everyone got different perspective.
So, the reason that super pissed og mate is pissed about is because, I classify them under those who “spoiled my plan”. With reference from my previous post, “Planning for the Surprise!”, I said about the pathetic turn out rate. I also commented about people not putting in the effort to come down for the outing I planned.
After reading my post, some people start to classify themselves, I did not classify anyone specifically. The super pissed og mate of mine feels that I SHOULD have mention that some are unable to make it because they have gl meeting. So, to make things super duper uper clear, I decided to post this entry.
So, on the day of celebration, I got only 9 people from gargoyle attended. Initially, there are 22 people who said they can make it. In the end, 4 have GL meeting, 2 have lesson till late, 1 has ministerial forum, 1 has band practice, 1 has tuition, 2 can’t attend because of outside commitment and the last 2 did not even reply my message. I feel that those who can’t go without a bo-bian reason (for example, GL meeting) did not put in the effort to try to attend the gathering.I was told to be specific with what I write on my blog. Especially when come to such sensitive matter. My bad. I should have specifically name out the reason why they couldn’t make it to prevent such misunderstanding. I shouldn’t have stated something so generalize. I caused the misinterpretation.
Another reason why my that super pissed og mate is pissed is because, she feels that I am blaming her for all that happened. Actually, I don’t blame her. I don’t blame anyone for what has happened, or rather, I blame myself. I blame myself for planning this whole thing which result in a misunderstanding. If I know that it will end up like that, I will stop myself from continue planning the whole thing.
The name appearing on your taskbar when you open my blog is “Unsweeten Seduction”. I never said that my blog is “sweet”. So if one day, you read something which is so “unsweet” in my blog, look at the taskbar. The name states so. I should have wrote it in caps. So other’s will not come to my blog and start pin-pointing how unsweet my blog is.
Sometimes, my mind and heart doesn’t link together. However, I know when to use my brain and when to use my heart. Like when I use my brain to tell someone something, I will always use my brain to update my blog about that matter. I will not stupidly use my heart to blog and contradict myself. It is stupid to do so. And yes, it is so hypocritical.
Seriously, I never know that planning an event will cause myself to get into a conflict. I have learn a couple of great lessons from here. Now I FINALLY understand why we learn effective communication. People have different perspective. Right! That is totally true.
I also learnt that it is hard to plan a gathering. It is even harder to write my own opinion. I cannot generalize the whole situation and I need to specifically state the reasons. Else I will get myself into another round of trouble. Now I know, so next time, expect a longer blog post from me. I need to specifically state every thing that happen. It is like a recount, specific recount.