While browsing through the internet, I found some rather nice quotes.
How you know you love her? When you are freezing in the middle of the night, you cover your wife who is ON the blanket with your part of the blankie instead.It is so sweet! Once, someone told me “you love the person when you give up your favourite item for/to her”. I always think it is sweet! As for the quotes above, if it is the last point about snoring, I seriously think that person is kinda crazy! Imagine your sleep is being disturbed every single night –.- LOL!
How you know you love her? When you tell her you are full, even if it is your favourite food, so that she can eat the delicious last morsel.
How you know you love her? When she is snoring so loudly that you can't sleep, and all you can think of is how cute that snoring sound is.
adapted from McDanielOng’s twitter; http://twitter.com/McDanielOng
If I let you love me, be the one adored, would you go all the way, be the one I'm looking for?Oh~ Ok, this isn’t any sweet stuff. Just some quotes which I saw it in my friend’s twitter. I like the one where he describe love as falling asleep. If you want to sleep and you force yourself not to, it really hurts! LOL!
Love is a lot like falling asleep. You can't force it. If you fight it, it hurts. You just have to let it happen
adapted from Alfred’s twitter;
Whoever said, “You don’t know what you have until it’s gone” is wrong, because you know exactly what you have when you have it. You just don’t know how much you need it until you can’t have it anymore.Usually when we have it, we won’t appreciate it. It is only when it is gone, you will realise it’s importance and how much you need it.
adapted from Annoymous; http://eletheowl.tumblr.com/
可不可以有一个人。P.S. 咱 means us.
可以看穿我的逞强。
可以保护我的脆弱。
不要在我说「没事啦，你去吧」的时候就真的会放心的放开我的手然后留我一个人。
不要在我笑笑的不说话的时候就真的会以为我心里没有觉得疼痛和难过。
不要在我若无其事的忙碌着手头的事的时候就真的会以为我什么影响都没有受到。
我希望他会在我的眼泪掉下以前就用大大的手掌捂住我的眼睛。
然后轻声说 你的眼睛只有微笑的时候才是最好看。
我希望他会在我面无表情的时候轻轻的用力的搂紧我。
然后说 你在我的面前永远都不需要伪装坚强。
我希望他会在我受到委屈的时候把我的脑袋按在他的肩膀上。
然后抚着我的头发说 没关系 就算所有的人都不相信你 你都还有我。
咱要嫁的那个人 不一定要是高高瘦瘦的 但是一定要干干净净
咱要嫁的那个人 不一定要会甜言蜜语 但是一定要有好的脾气
咱要嫁的那个人 不一定要帅气又多金 但是一定要有聪明的头脑和上进心
咱要嫁的那个人 一定会从我们牵手那刻起 对我说 从今天起 我们有福同享 有难我当
咱要嫁的那个人 一定要霸道些 他会对我说 我认定你了 就赖你了 你就是我一个人的 我不许别人走近你
咱要嫁的那个人 一定会支持我减肥 却依然带我去超市给我买很多好吃的 然后说 吃吧 不管你多胖我都要你
咱要嫁的那个人 一定会在过马路的时候牵着我的手 对我说 要跟我走
咱要嫁的那个人 一定会明白老婆是用来疼的 而且会吹着快乐的口哨和我一起做家务
咱要嫁的那个人 一定会在我生气的时候耐心的哄着 然后逗我说 你生气的样子 好丑
咱要嫁的那个人 一定会在我哭的时候为我擦眼泪 然后告诉我 乖 不哭 有我在呢
咱要嫁的那个人 一定会在我累的时候 伸出手臂 很心疼的说 抱抱
咱要嫁的那个人 一定会在睡觉前跟我说 你要早点睡觉 晚安
咱要嫁的那个人 一定会把我带回家 对他妈说 看 这是我给你找的儿媳妇 然后对我说 这是咱妈
咱要嫁的那个人 一定会在某一个阳光明媚的日子 顶着一片湛蓝的天 笑着对我说 我们该有个家了
adapted from Annoymous;
I saw this online. OMG! It is super touching!!! I want to marry someone like that! =( However, how many guys in this world is like that? Even if there is, when will it be my turn to meet him?
But one thing for sure is, I am not one they want to marry with. It says the person 一定要有好的脾气, however, my temper is bad. Boohoo! No one wants me now! Sad! I shall stay single for life.
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Below are some ‘How to find’ passages taken from internet.
FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNERI know it is long. However, I think it is something rather interested. It tells you what to take note when looking for the significant other.
When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!
If you ask most couples who are engaged why they’re getting married, they’ll say: “We're in love”; I believe this is the number 1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love.
Though this may sound ‘not politically correct’, there’s a profound truth here.
Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: “You can’t build a lifetime relationship on love alone”; You need a lot more!!!
Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you’re serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION 1: Do we share a common life purpose?
Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you’re married for 20 or 30 years, that’s a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.
Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.
QUESTION 2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust i.e. trust that I won’t get ‘punished’; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
QUESTION 3: Is he/she a mensch?
A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as ‘someone who is always striving to be good and do the right’;. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.
There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.
QUESTION 4: How does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.
Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don’t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.
QUESTION 5: Is there anything I’m hoping to change about this person after we’re married?
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to ‘improve’ them after they’re married. As a colleague of mine puts it: “You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse” If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.
In conclusion, dating doesn’t have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on our finger, you don’t want to find yourself trouble because you didn’t do your homework.
Another perspective...There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones don’t appreciate you? Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or annotations.
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
An African proverb states, “Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye”; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don’t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults isn’t really that important.
Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can’t take someone to the altar to alter them. You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and ‘a life’; you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.) 7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
9. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT
10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS.
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.
adapted from Dov Heller, M.A.;
10 steps to enjoying each other better...10 steps. Out of these 10 steps, how many have been done? Where is the check list? So many ways to teach you how to have a better relationship. Relationship is something which cannot be taught but it is to be experienced. All these that they always tell you is stuff that can enhance your relationship. At the end of the day, how does your relationship goes depend greatly on you and your partner.
1. Be realistic about each other.
Don’t try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. Let’s face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give your girl a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnight with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so you’re got to do to do with what your guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what you are. There is more to your partner than what meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not your favourite pastime or mode of resolving issues, but you know what? This works with the girls. Don’t make assumptions about each other’s feelings. Learn to express yourself better so that your partner understands what you are angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When you stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve yourselves in some shared activities; something both of you enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts you to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if your girl asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for ‘that sort of activities’ instead. If you’re spending more time with your friends rather than with your partner, it's a warning sign that you’re drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway. If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the ‘The_Rock’ print, you shouldn’t kick up much of a fuss if he asks you to keep your room tidy... There’s got to be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
5.Show your love
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if you have been together for 5 years. It’s wonderful to continue showing someone that you care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine’s Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can’t wear (like for decoration purposes (=), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him... so he knows you can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is you love to laugh at. Ask yourself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other’s feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.
7. Bury the past.. Stop bringing up the past. Girls.. don’t bring up the happy things about you and your ex to your guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don’t talk about the happy times that you had with your ex or mention about her in your every other sentence as it would make your gal feel unhappy and she might think that you saying all this because you are going to get back with your ex or not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on your jealousy.
All of us go through spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don’t translate that insecurity into jealousy. If you are going to go through your partner’s mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, you know something is wrong - with you!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads through the relationship before finally killing it. Trust your partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep your commitments to each other. If your partner is standing you up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, you need to talk! If you’re in a relationship, make your partner your priority and don’t disappoint them if you can help it. It’s really terrible when someone promises to take you to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don’t make promises you can’t keep.. If your partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to you, you may jus lose him/her.
10. Be honest. Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say ‘be honest’, we mean expressing your feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When you're hurt, say so, and when you’re angry, tell him/her, without getting hysterical. If you can’t be honest with your partner, who can you be honest with? Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!
adapted from Annoymous;
For once, I just want to be someone's priority
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